Toma and his sister Poppy came home with me on a cold
March evening. I carried the little devils inside my coat for the car ride home.
They were well adjusted, healthy little babies. They had grown-up under the
watchful eye of a German Shepherd and so they were use to dogs. They weren't the least bit
put off by my dog, Mari Jane. Their energy and intelligence amazed me! They
loved to cuddle each other and me. They could have won awards as the best lap cats known
to human kind!
Ever since Toma was a baby
he use to crawl up my leg by very carefully hooking his claws into the denim
of my jeans until he would reach the waist of my jeans. At which point I would
take him into my arms and hold him. He never once touched my skin with his
claws - not once. He was a gentleman and a true friend.
Toma was an Uncle twice. His Sister, Poppy, had 2 litters - the 1st one
was planned - the 2nd wasn't. Toma just loved his nieces and nephews and he took care of
them like they were his own. In many ways Siamese cats are like dogs in their
behavior. They are very attentive to their human family members. Like the canine
needs their pack - the Siamese needs their family.
When Poppy died in my arms Toma
did not behave in the way that *I* thought he should. In my ignorance I held
that against him for years. One day it was finally pointed out to me that
everyone deals with loss in their own way and in their own time. Such a simple
statement held such truth and somehow I hadn't been able to see that for myself.
Just because someone deals with grief differently than I do doesn't make their
grief any less than what I feel. The thought was life changing for me - thank
you Diz. I do believe that reliving our past should be cathartic on some
level. Either that or it's all for naught. I learned so much from the critters in
my life. I know that I can never give back half of what I have received but, I will
be their champion for the rest of my life. I will do what I can.
Toma didn't care too much for *puppy* Frodo!
Sweet Mari Jane
Time has a way of building friendships that are life long.